Frequently Asked Questions

Frequently-Asked Questions

Whether you’re new around here or have a random question. Below are some of the most commonly-asked.

Classes

Everything you need to know about our self-care classes.

If there’s a class you’re interested in, the best option is to navigate to the individual class page via the calendar and RSVP.

 

When you RSVP, it lets us (and others) know you plan to attend. We’ll send you an email reminder about an hour before class and it’ll also appear in your upcoming classes list for easy management.

 

All classes are hosted by ZOOM, but must be accessed via myselfcaresociety.com

Nope. You'll never be seen or heard by default.

 

In some classes, guides will ask for volunteers, in which case you can raise your hand if you're interested in coming on screen and sharing. 

 

How you take SCS classes is completely up to you. You can participate in chat, volunteer to share, or just hang back in your pajamas and follow along. There's no right way to do SCS class.

None of our classes are recorded.

One of the founding principles of SCS is that we need to hold each other accountable for showing up, and we're better when we do this work together.

The one exception is the Sunday Self-Care Strategy Session (Monthly) to make sure all members have the opportunity to view. We provide access for a week following.

All classes can be accessed through the Self-Care Society website.

About 15 minutes before class, a “Join Now” button will appear on the individual class page which you can click to automatically join.

RSVPing is mostly a courtesy at this point — letting us know that you plan to attend to we can make sure we'll be able to accommodate all.

Yes, all classes are listed in Pacific Standard time.

It's the best we can do for now. We hope to offer localized timezones in the future.

Just bring a journal or your favorite note-taking app and you’ll be all set.

 

It’s also a good idea to ensure you’ve downloaded Zoom and are up to date on the latest version. Usually this happens automatically, but worth checking so you don’t miss anything.

 

On the rare occasion that it’s recommended to prepare something (usually with intensive workshops), you’ll have ample warning ahead of time.

RSVPing lets us (and others) know that you're planning to attend.

 

When you RSVP to a class, it will be added to your “Upcoming Classes” list for easy access.

 

You'll also receive an email reminder with a link about an hour before class start time.

 

Not currently.

 

We hope to be able to always accommodate all members though, should a need arise in the future for any reason, RSVPed members will get priority.

Unfortunately, this option isn't currently available.

 

Don't worry, though. There aren't any negative implications for missing and RSVP, you just may receive a reminder email to the class you can't attend.

Yup <3

The
Self-Care Checklist

Common questions about the checklist and how it works.

The self-care checklist is a simple tool to help you discover, and stay accountable to, your optimal daily self-care routine.

 

With the goal of both finding and developing the self-care practices that serve you best, it’s meant to be a fun way to track and reflect on your progress. Whether that’s breathwork, affirmations, gratitude, or any number of options, we believe that lasting change starts small, and wins of any size should be celebrated daily. 

 

By keeping a daily log of your wins, over time the hope is that you’ll be able to identify the specific practices that you find most fulfilling. Each class will consist of a handful of these self-care practices, with the goal of helping you on the path to discovering what lights you up the most.

 

We also know that creating lasting habits requires consistency, and that consistency often requires systems. The self-care checklist is a system we've found that works for many. 

 

Above all, the self-care checklist is meant to serve as inspiration and accountability, on the path to helping you “fill your cup” and towards finding the self-care practices that help you live at your highest vibration.

Simply check off your self-care wins as you go each day, and log your wins when done.

Whether from class-guided activities or your personal practice, each win should be treated as a celebration – you made the space, and were intentional about your self care today. 

Once you’ve checked items off the list, you can either:

  1. “Save” Your Wins - There’s more to be done! Save your wins and come back later to submit.
  2. “Log Daily Wins” - Call it a day and celebrate the fact that you did the work. Amazing!

One checklist submission per day. Your list will reset daily at midnight Pacific Time.

We like to think of submitting your wins as an act of daily celebration. A moment to reflect on a given day, and acknowledge the self work that you did.

 

One of the core pillars of impactful self care is intentionality. You showed up, you did the work, and whether it’s two minutes or two hours, you were intentional about your practice. 

 

The self-care checklist is no different. Your work doesn’t necessarily have to end, but logging your wins is a small, intentional way to celebrate your victories... and remind yourself of the great work you’re doing.

Yes! The goal of the self-care checklist is based on 3 principles:

  1. To help you stay accountable to your self-care routine
  2. To acknowledge your wins as they happen
  3. To help you identify the practices that serve you best over time

Have a better week than most? Amazing! Whether you attribute that to your self-care routine or any number of other factors, we’re happy for you 🙂 If you do think your routine had a meaningful impact, you’ll always have an ongoing log to review and reflect on what makes you feel like your best self.

The self-care checklist is a tool we developed to help with staying consistent and accountable to the small daily habits that we know serve us. Originally developed by Danika Brysha, to support her in her own journey of recovery, transformation, and wellness, she quickly learned that this powerful tool could be the resource that helped millions with the most challenging part of a self-care practice… getting it done. 

 

After working with thousands on their own self-care and helping them utilize their own personalized self-care checklists, it became evident that this tool was meant for the masses. With some refining and crafting, we’ve taken the original self-care checklist and built it in a digital format that makes it easier than ever to stay accountable to the self-care habits that serve you.

Take a look over our self care checklist glossary for a brief intro and examples to go along with any of the core practices on the list. 

 

Even better, attend a live class where your guide will walk you through any number of self care routines, supported by a community doing them right along with you.

 

Still stuck? Put a line out to the community. This loving group is always ready to help.

You can add up to 9 custom wins on a given day and they’ll log just like everything else. The core list is in no way definitive, and meant to serve as inspiration above all.

 

Find the practices that work for you and let us know if there are any glaring omissions. We’d love to hear what’s lighting you up from day to day.

If you’ve already submitted your checklist for the day, it will automatically reset each night at midnight PDT.

 

Thank you, international friends, for bearing with us. We hope to have localized options soon.

Absolutely.

 

As long as you’re logged in to your SCS account, wins will carry over between your phone, computer, tablet, or any number of devices so you can keep track along the way.

Don’t worry. You did the work! Celebrate that much and remember that it’s not about what you put into some app as much as the fact that you’re doing it. Plus, you can always just tack them on to tomorrow’s checklist if you really want to. 

 

Above all, the self-care checklist is meant to be fun. Tomorrow is another day 🙂

Yes! Every day you log your checklist you’ll get 50 Love Points just for showing up. Love points translate into Care Coin, which you can eventually spend in the SCS Shop.

 

Affirmation badges are another small way to celebrate your success and consistency. You’ll earn a unique badge for 7 days of wins, 30 days, 90 days, 180 days, and 365 days. Look at you now!

About Rewards

Celebrate the small wins. Earn points for the love you give yourself and others.

Action Love Points
Log Daily Checklist 50 Points
RSVP to Class 25 Points
Attend Class 100 Points
Volunteer in Class 150 Points
Post an Update 25 Points
Reply w/ Support 15 Points
Send Love Good Karma

Celebrate your self-care milestones with badges.

500

Love Points
=
Care Coins

50

Every 500 Love Points will earn you 50 Care Coins. It’s that simple.

Please allow up to 48 hours for certain point types to register (e.g. Volunteer in class).

 

Love Point total and Badges will be publicly visible on your profile.

 

Checklist Wins and Care Coins are private to you and cannot be seen by other users.

 

Care Coins can be redeemed in the SCS shop (more coming soon).

 

750 Care Coins (7.500 Love Points) monthly maximum per user — exceptions apply to special events purchased Care Coins.

 

Have fun! Rewards are meant to be positive addition to the community. Should we learn of anyone attempting to game the system for personal gain, we reserve the right to revoke love points, care coins, and badges without warning.

 

Please note: Rewards are currently in beta testing mode. We thank you for your patience as we fine tune things and welcome you to report should anything not work as expected.

Self-Care Glossary

Affirmations are positive affirming statements that we can use to change the dialogue in our mind, the way we think about ourselves and the world, and are a great manifesting tool. Most positive affirmations start with “I am…” (though they certianly don’t have to) and can be short or long. You can write a paragraph affirming something or just a word.

Affirmations are used to intentionally reprogram your mind to think the thoughts that you want to be true for yourself. Affirmations are statements that you WANT to be true for you, even if you don’t fully believe them yet. Just make sure your affirmations are always positive in nature. For example, instead of saying “I am not lazy” you would say “I am energized, efficient, and productive.”

Examples: 

  • I am enough
  • I am worth of living my best life possible
  • I am a healthy person with healthy habits
  • I manifest abundance always
  • I carry nothing that does not serve me – physically, emotionally, spiritually
  • I love my body

Our breath is our life force. It can help us to regulate our emotions, to bring us back into our bodies, and to ground ourselves when we are feeling chaotic and out of alignment.

It is the act of consciously controlling our breathing to influence our mental, physical, and emotional states.

Examples:

  • There are many breathwork techniques and it can be as simple as paying attention. You can count your breaths in and out, take deep breaths into your body, or practice techniques like box breathing.

I’m a huge advocate for little wins. Setting ourselves up to celebrate our successes, feel like we’re doing a good job, and to notice even the smallest things about ourselves that matter. The more we celebrate, the more we have self love. The more we have self love, the easier it is to practice self care.

Set yourself up for lots of little wins each day, and celebrate and savor them when they occur. Positive reinforcement will lead to positive action. Be sure you set yourself up for success with systems and accountability.

Examples:

  • Celebration can be simple like journaling about what you are proud of, what you’ve accomplished, and what you enjoyed. It can also be highlighted on a daily basis through checking boxes that make you feel good and accomplished when you do nice things for yourself. It is important as we grow and learn that we feel supported and loved, and that we have a safe space to mess up, make mistakes, and try again.

In order to manifest what we want, we must first know what those desires are. Clarity is a process of going inward to find out what you want. Our desires change all through our life so it’s important to constantly check in to see what feels good for us now. Clarity can be receive in a myriad of ways.

Examples:

  • Clarity can be found through processes like reflection, meditation, journaling, connection, and really any time we pause, get intentional, and listen in. Paying attention to what feels good to us, no matter what the outside world says we should do.

We are better together and we are social creatures. Connecting with other like-minded and supportive beings is medicine for our soul. This is why Self Care Society is built to be a community driven experience.

Examples:

  • Calling or texting a loved one
  • Joining a group of people you feel aligned with
  • Physical touch with someone you love
  • Sharing experiences with others

The practice of being grateful. Practicing gratitude reprograms us to look at what’s good and what is working in the world, instead of focusing on our often default method of what isn’t, and everything we need to do. We can even practice gratitude for things that haven’t happened yet but that we want to manifest. I often say “thank you” for things I don’t yet have in an effort to manifest them into reality.

Examples:

  • Thank you for the love I share with my friends and family
  • I am so grateful for my self -care routine and my consistency with it
  • I am so thankful for the abundance of miracles in my life

Intentionality refers to the act of taking action based on clarity and desire. Being deliberate or purposeful. We can’t expect to achieve our dreams if we don’t know what they are. We do many activities based around living an intentional life in Self Care Society and these can take form in a variety of ways.

Examples:

  • Intentionality can be achieved through practices like planning, strategizing, building systems and time management, and goal-setting

The practice of journaling is best done with a pen to paper (handwritten) to really allow our thoughts to slow down and make their way onto paper. Journaling can look differently for everyone but I’ve found it to be a beautiful creative process with which I turn my thoughts into something tangible that I can see on paper.

I encourage those who journal to view the practice of journaling as something of value for the present moment vs. documenting the details of your life thinking you’ll read it later. Focus on using the pages as a way to get the racing thoughts out of your mind and down in a way that you can digest and make sense of them.

Our minds are valuable real estate so the more we can dump our brains of junk, the more space we create for our own clarity and opportunities.

Journaling can take many forms but some prompts might be:

  • I like…
  • I feel…
  • I am…
  • I want…
  • I love…

Manifesting is the act of bringing your visions into physical reality. It’s the process used to turn a thought into a thing, and is closely tied to the practice of visualization.

Manifesting includes practices like expressing gratitude for what you want in your life. It’s getting clear on what you want and continually focusing on that thing. It’s writing journal entries and biographies of yourself from the future speaking as if something you desire has already happened. Like visualizing, it’s a great way to experience the feelings of your desires, before they exist for you in the physical world.

Examples:

  • Writing a journal entry dated in the future is a great way to manifest who you want to me
  • Creating a vision board of what you want to attract
  • Writing a biography of yourself from the future
  • Saying gratitude for something you hope to attract, as if it already happened

Our physical bodies are the “suit” we experience the physical world with. Emotions are energy in motion, which means, that when energy isn’t in motion, we can tend to bring up uncomfortable physical feelings in our bodies. If we don’t have our physical body, we don’t have something to experience all the beauty of life with, and all the desires we manifest.

Movement allows the energy and emotions to flow through us and out of us. It supports not just physical health but mental health.

Examples:

  • Stretching
  • Dancing
  • Shaking
  • Walking
  • Jumping
  • Any sort of fitness

Play and creativity are a critical part of self care. Creativity is our life force. It is the way we manifest and bring things to us that we desire. It is how anything that didn’t exist, came to be.

You can see why this play and creativity is critical in how we bring to life anything we desire.

Examples:

  • Play can be turning of your devices and frolicking in nature
  • Drawing or creating art of any form (music, gardening, cooking, etc.)
  • Doing anything that doesn’t feel “traditionally productive”

The process of reflection is as critical as the momentum we often have to move on to the next thing. If we don’t pause to reflect on what we’ve done, accomplished, or experienced, it becomes harder to move forward learning from our past.

Reflection is a beautiful act of transition, learning, and information, and can be done in a variety of ways, like journaling, therapy, conversations, etc.

Examples:

  • Journaling about your experience, what you learned, what worked, what you would do differently
  • Taking the time to focus and mediate on the things — good and bad — that have had significant impact on our lives 

Self love is the foundation of self care. When we love ourselves, it becomes a natural and automatic behavior to take care of ourselves. The stronger our foundation of self care, the easier we’ll find it becomes to take action on things like healthy eating, proper sleep, mindful movement, nourishing relationships, play, rest, etc.

Self love is ever-evolving and there are tangible ways with which to cultivate in your life. Using willpower to do acts of self care, will strengthen the internal dialogue towards self love. It says “you are worth taking care of” which also means “you are worth of love and care”.

Self love and self care work together and strengthen each other. The stronger these foundations, the easier it becomes to find consistency in your practices.

Examples:

  • Positive Affirmations
  • Taking time to celebrate yourself and who you are
  • Consciously consuming media and messaging that supports your enough-ness exactly as you are

We often underestimate the impact that our physical and mental states have on our well being. Keeping our physical space tidy and clear of clutter impacts our mental health and our abilty to focus and be productive. Clearing out the clutter in our minds through things like therapy and journaling, allows for more spaciousness for new exciting things to come in.

We will only be given what we can handle. If you want abundance and newness, or you are calling something in for your life, be sure you’ve left the space for it to enter. Creativity happens in this white space too. If we’re constantly doing things and busy, it’s much harder to fully receive these often life-changing downloads from the universe.

Examples:

  • Clearing clutter from your work area or your home
  • Throwing things away Tidying your space
  • Talking to a loved one or therapist to release emotional energy
  • Journaling your thoughts to remove them from you body and on to paper

Support can be given or taken and is a powerful part of any growth journey. We are nourished not just when we are held and taken care of, but also when we are given the opportunity to take care of someone else.

Examples:

  • Reaching out to loved ones who are on your mind
  • Reminding yourself that you are taken care of and loved
  • Writing a kind note or sending a message out of the blue
  • Cheering on fellow SCS members when they volunteer or put themselves out there

Visualization is the practice of creating an experience in your mind and body that may or may not be happening in the physical world around you. Think of it as the grown up version of imagination that you did so freely as a child. Where you could be anyone and anywhere by simply allowing yourself to go there in your mind.

Visualization is a powerful tool in manfesting. In most cases, our body and brain does not know if it’s experiencing something for real in the phsysical world, or if it’s happening in the mind. The true way to manifest your desires is to experience the feelings and visions that you’ll have when you get there, NOW. The path to bring our visions to life is simply creating that vision and those feelings first and trusting that the physical world around you will rise up to meet it.

In SCS classes, we often do guided visualizations where the leader will have you close your eyes and imagine you as your highest self, your healthiest self, taking your dream trip, in your dream job, and more.

Sample Visualization:

You are the most vibrant, healthy, productive, peaceful, conscious version of you.

You’re up early and you’re holding your favorite hot drink. You sit down in the space that you do most mornings to align for the day.

You notice as you move towards this spot, how good you feel in your body. A type of lightness and flow and grace and confidence.

You’ve been practicing an affirmation and you feel it being embodied. “I carry nothing that does not serve me – physically, emotionally, or spiritually.”

You sit and you set your drink down on the table next to you. What does the table look like? What does the mug look like? What is the room temperature? What is the weather outside?

You take a deep breath that fills your whole body. You notice how it feels to be this version of you.

You realize that all it took to get here was to feel these feelings first, and the outside world caught up. You committed to memorizing these feelings in your body… ones of ________.

You noticed what it felt like to feel like this and you committed it to muscle memory. Notice right now. Scan your body. Commit to this bodily experience.

How can you bring yourself back here? How can you choose this as your consistent state?