“Ultimately, love for the self is the deepest pleasure we deny ourselves. I work daily to be courageous enough to indulge in the purest pleasure of self-love.”
― Adrienne Maree Brown, Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good
Make a Self Love Checklist – Make a list of some kind and loving things you can do for your body/self.
Reminder that when we practice self-care, we quietly whisper to ourselves that we are someone worth taking care of. We are worthy.
Examples: Baths, lotion, stretching, sleeping, allow space for your feelings, set boundaries, eating nourishing foods, donate clothing that doesn’t fit or feel good, write affirmations, move your body mindfully
Pick one self-love action item from above that you will commit to doing for the next 7 days every day. I’d encourage you to add this to a calendar, write it on a post it, or note it in your journal.
Clarity, Reflection, and Self-Love
Imagine you were working with an amazing coach who was also incredibly loving, graceful, and empowering in their methods. What feedback would they give you about this week?
Fill in the blanks:
Here is your weekly report (Your Name).
- First, I want to celebrate _______.
- You did so well with _______.
- I noticed that _______.
- You struggled with _______.
- Next week let’s put some energy towards _______.
- You expanded through _______.
- Just a reminder that _______.
- Lastly, _______.
Here is your weekly report Danika.
First, I want to celebrate: the new garden beds you built, how you moved your body this week, and that you’re taking a couple days off to be with friends.
You did so well with: focusing on what mattered and taking tasks one at a time and letting go of the what couldn’t get done each day.
I noticed that: your body was tired and that your balance of work and rest could still use some tinkering.
You struggled with: overwhelm and a bit of indecision but it’s all part of the journey and great information.
Next week let’s put some energy towards: finding the balance of work and rest/play that feels truly nourishing for you
You expanded through: your fear of heights while on that steep ledge during your hike and your ability to give honest feedback when someone asked for it.
Just a reminder that: you’re still being a bit hard on yourself, and that there is a way to set yourself up for success each day instead of feeling like there is so much undone.
Lastly, you’re exactly where you are meant to be and you’re doing a great job.
What do you love about yourself?
- my optimism and way of looking at the world
- my constant thirst for self-knowledge and growth
- my deep empathy and acknowledgment of others’ feelings